Five Reminders from My Son (who is in Heaven)
If you see a few extra tears coming from our family this weekend, this article will help you understand why. Re-sharing this article helps us acknowledge that we have a son who is in heaven right now. ~ Stephen
(originally posted 10/31/14)
This week has been difficult for my family. On October 29th, 2009, my wife delivered our oldest son. He was only 15 weeks old. Sadly, miscarriages in pregnancies are very common. But, they are still very real and they are always painful. So, for us, this week marked 5 years since we held him in our hands. In our home we have been talking about him all week long. We have cried and laughed and cried some more. But, I have also been reminded of several glorious truths. I would like to share them with you today.
- Life is a gift. It is so easy to think that making a baby is easy. In reality, life is very fragile. There are no guarantees when it comes to life. No one is guaranteed a baby. Every life is a gift from the moment of conception. Life is a precious gift. Whenever I think of my son I am reminded that life is a gift.
- My wife is a gift. My wife suffered tremendously during each of her four pregnancies. She endured numerous hospital stays, IV fluids, medications, blood transfusions, and a PICC line. She clearly fit the profile of a pregnancy where the life of the mother is in danger. There were times when I (and our doctor) were considering the fact that she might not be here. You may think I am exaggerating, but when I think of my son in heaven, I am reminded to thank God that Nicki is still here.
- My son Josiah is a gift from God. While every pregnancy was difficult, it was our third pregnancy that ended with a miscarriage. After that you can imagine the range of emotions that we went through. After some time we decided to see if God would allow us to have another child. Keep in mind – nobody thought this was a good idea. Everyone thought it was too dangerous for Nicki to get pregnant. We got many strange looks when word started to spread that we were pregnant. In short, God saw fit to bless us with another son – Josiah. I cannot describe the joy I feel when I look at Josiah. When I think of my son in heaven – I am reminded to praise God for Josiah – my son on earth.
- God is good. It is so easy to forget this truth. There is an old song which says it well, “What God Ordains is Always Good.” (The full text of the song is below.) I do not always understand this, but for some reason whenever I think of my son in heaven, I am reminded that God is good.
- Abortion is the modern Holocaust. When I think of my son in heaven, I am reminded that he is not alone. He is with God and he is with millions (perhaps even billions) of other babies. Many of those babies went to heaven just like he did. Tragically, many of those babies went to heaven because their mothers chose to send them there through abortion. I hate abortion. It is murder. Anyone who calls it otherwise is simply wrong. During the horrible days of the Holocaust, our country rose up to defend those who could not defend themselves. Our nation recognized the evil that was occurring and stood up against it. A similar evil occurs today and our nation gives millions of dollars to fund it. How tragic. How evil. When I think of my son in Heaven, I am reminded of the thousands of babies that are murdered each day.
I miss my son. I often wonder what he would be like. What would he look like? I don’t know the answers to these questions. But I do know that God is still there. He is still reigning over all of the events of my life. Remember this, life is not always easy – but God is always good.
What God Ordains Is Always Good
by Samuel Rodigast, 1649-1708
1. What God ordains is always good; His will abideth holy.
As He directs my life for me, I follow meek and lowly.
God indeed in every need Doth well know how to shield me;
To Him, then, I will yield me.
2. What God ordains is always good. He never will deceive me;
He leads me in His own right way, And never will He leave me.
I take content What He hath sent; His hand that sends me sadness
Will turn my tears to gladness.
3. What God ordains is always good. His loving thought attends me;
No poison can be in the cup That my Physician sends me.
My God is true; Each morn anew I’ll trust His grace unending,
My life to Him commending.
4. What God ordains is always good. He is my Friend and Father;
He suffers naught to do me harm, Though many storms may gather.
Now I may know Both joy and woe, Some day I shall see clearly
That He hath loved me dearly.
5. What God ordains is always good. Though I the cup am drinking
Which savors now of bitterness, I take it without shrinking.
For after grief God grants relief, My heart with comfort filling
And all my sorrow stilling.
6. What God ordains is always good. This truth remains unshaken.
Though sorrow, need, or death be mine, I shall not be forsaken.
I fear no harm, For with His arm He shall embrace and shield me;
So to my God I yield me.
Life is a Big Deal (the Window)
Life is precious. All life is precious. From the unborn child slowly developing in his mother’s womb to the old man knocking on death’s door – All life is precious. This coming Sunday is recognized as Sanctity of Human Life Sunday. Let’s take a few minutes and think about life.
Life is a precious gift. It is a beautiful gift. Abortion robs the unborn child of the gift of life. Abortion is murder. It is slaughter. It takes advantage of the helpless.
When discussing abortion, it often helps to share some stats. Because of delays in reporting statistics, 2008 is the most recent year for which data is available. These statistics come from the Guttmacher Institute. Given the close relationship between the Guttmacher Institute and Planned Parenthood (source), these statistics are undoubtedly biased in favor of the pro-abortion crowd. Nonetheless, they are still staggering. Consider the following statistics about our great state of Florida: (source)
- In 2008, there were a total of 94,360 abortions performed in Florida.
- In Florida, 381,500 of the 3,505,482 women of reproductive age became pregnant in 2008. 61% of these pregnancies resulted in live births and 25% in induced abortions.
Personally, abortion is one of the few things that really makes me angry. It stirs my emotions in deep ways. It boggles my mind that abortion can be defined as anything other than murder.
So, what can we do? I realize that not everyone can go protest outside an abortion clinic. Not everyone can donate large amounts of money to crisis pregnancy centers. But there are things we all can do.
- Talk about abortion. Ignoring the elephant in the room will not make it go away. Expose it. Tell your children about abortion. Do it appropriately. Call abortion what it really is. Use words like ‘murder’ and ‘slaughter.’ Websites like abort73.com are excellent at exposing the truth about abortion. Use these websites. (Use caution. Abortion is horrid. They describe it and show it with honesty.)
- Support local Crisis Pregnancy Centers. Here in Winter Haven, we have an excellent center right on Central Avenue. Visit www.lifechoicepregnancycenter.com to learn more about them. Take them baby formula, diapers, and anything else a young mother might need.
- Talk about Planned Parenthood. They are the largest abortion provider in our country. They receive millions of dollars from our federal government every year. (source) They are in Winter Haven and also in Lakeland. They are most likely in your town. Talk about them. Do what you can to oppose them. Do not get caught up in their political words. They can paint a beautiful picture of all that they do to help women. Remember, it does not matter how much good you do if you are slaughtering helpless children in the backroom.
- Help mothers. Unplanned pregnancies happen all the time. Often, we get upset at the mother for her decisions. However, remember her child. Resist the urge to play God by judging the mother. Instead, love her. Help her. Encourage her.
- Pray. Prayer can move mountains. Prayer can change hearts. It may seem like there is not much you can do. But, you can pray. “The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” James 5:16 KJV
Life is a big deal. Let’s do all that we can to protect it.
Someone You Know Trusts Planned Parenthood (by Stephen Simpson)
Really? Can this be true? I recently saw this message printed on a new billboard in our town. Previous billboards at this location have been much better. They have promoted mouth-watering ribs from Sonny’s or a local A/C contractor. But now, a giant billboard from the nation’s largest abortion provider greats all who drive by.
I have never been into a Planned Parenthood office. I am afraid to go. I am afraid of the emotions that would overwhelm me. I am afraid that I would look at each employee or volunteer and wonder “How many unborn children have you helped murder?” I cannot fathom trusting Planned Parenthood. “Trust” and “Planned Parenthood” do not belong in the same universe, much less on the same billboard.
There are many things in life that we should trust. I trust my children’s pediatrician. I trust him completely to care for my children. I trust my Pastor. I trust that he will always tell me the truth – regardless of whether I like it. I trust my insurance agent. He has provided sound advice and is a good friend. Most of all, I trust my Savior – Jesus Christ.
But, I do not trust Planned Parenthood. Why would I trust an organization that profits from the destruction of life? How can I trust an organization that murdered 331,796 unborn children in 2009 and another 329,445 in 2010? (source) Each abortion they perform destroys an unborn life and grievously harms the life of the mother.
One who trusts Planned Parenthood is like the child who whines and cries to get whatever he wants. The child says, “I want a candy bar.” The parent replies, “no.” The child then whines and cries and stomps on the ground. Finally, the parent decides, “Fine. You can have the candy bar.” In the child’s mind, they have just solved their immediate problem. All their troubles are over. Tragically, the child does not see the dangerous path he is traveling on. He does not realize that he is on his way to being an adult who pitches fits to get whatever he wants.
Trusting Planned Parenthood is just like this. A woman experiences a legitimate crisis. Often it is an unplanned pregnancy. She is unsure what she should do. Planned Parenthood offers her a quick and easy solution to her problems. She does not like the solutions she hears elsewhere. To her, they all sound like the parent who says “No.” So, she decides to ‘trust’ Planned Parenthood. Just like the child, she gets her ‘candy bar.’ Just like the child, she fails to realize the dangerous path she is headed down. She has started down a hard road of grief, regret, and guilt.
There are many solid alternatives to Planned Parenthood that are worth trusting. But, they do not offer quick and easy solutions. Rather, they offer long-term solutions. They offer hope. The best of these alternatives offer salvation through Jesus Christ.
So, please, I beg you, do not ever trust Planned Parenthood. At first it may seem like they have helped you. But, in the long run you will see that they were not worthy of your trust.
- Planned Parenthood’s Plan for My Child (by Stephen Simpson)
- Planned Parenthood, Gospel Generosity, & 9 Lessons to Learn
Planned Parenthood’s Plan for My Child (by Stephen Simpson)
|God’s Plan is better than Planned Parenthood’s Plan
Abigail Marie Simpson – 2007
Planned Parenthood (PP) recently sent my wife a postcard. It really ticked me off. I’m obviously more sensitive right now because my wife is pregnant, but nonetheless, it really made me upset. Granted, it was a ‘bulk mailing,’ but it really bothered me. Just to be clear, I was extremely offended by a simple little postcard.
What is Planned Parenthood?
If you know anything about PP, then you know that they are ‘the nation’s largest single provider of abortions.’ (source) In 2009 alone, PP performed 332,278 abortions. (source) That is an average of over 910 abortions every single day. You would think that they would be somewhat deceptive and covert about their abortion services. Nope. They proudly list it with all of their services. In fact, their website clearly states – “Abortion is a safe and legal way to end pregnancy.”
The postcard was dripping with irony. The slogan read “We’re Here For You!” What the postcard did not say was “We’re here to help you make a decision that you will regret for the rest of your life. This decision may wreck your life with guilt. It may keep you up late at night for the rest of your life.” Planned Parenthood is not “here for you!” They are ‘here’ to pad their wallets. They are here to prey on scared women.
The slogan was simple, “We’re Here For You!” My question was, “Who’s Here For the Baby?” Sadly, they do not bother to answer that question.
Planned Parenthood’s Plan for My Child
Since that fateful trip to the mailbox, I’ve been asking myself, “What would PP’s plan be for my family?” Well, given my wife’s extreme sickness, I have no doubt that they would recommend abortion. My wife falls into the category of a woman whose life is endangered during pregnancy. Most likely, they would tell us, “We can make you feel all better and take all of your sickness away.” They would offer to murder my unborn child so that my wife would no longer be sick. Further, they would have the gall to tell my wife that she would not live with regret for the rest of her life. They would probably tell her that it is just a “routine procedure.” Abortion is anything but a ‘routine procedure.’ God has a special and unique plan for the child that is currently growing inside of my wife. While I may not know what that plan is, I do not believe that it involves an abortion.
By now you may be asking, “What is the Point of writing about this?”
- Awareness. The main point of this post is to make sure that you know that Planned Parenthood is here in our town. They have “two locations to better serve you” in Lakeland and Winter Haven. Abortion is real and it is happening right around the corner. This should make you weep and mourn.
- Alternatives. There are wonderful alternatives to Planned Parenthood. LifeChoice Pregnancy Center (Winter Haven) and A Woman’s Choice (Lakeland) are both excellent resources for pregnant women. Praise God, for these local pregnancy centers that are fighting for unborn children. Praise God that they are working hard to help women. These Pregnancy Centers can truly say “We’re Here for You and Your Baby.“
- Action. What can we do? I do not think that we need to camp out in front of their offices. I’m not convinced that this method is productive. Instead, we should fervently support healthy alternatives to the insanity that is Planned Parenthood. Support one of these local pregnancy centers. Volunteer your time. Send them your money. Pray for them. Pray that Planned Parenthood simply becomes irrelevant and withers away.
- Abort73.org – This website is the best I’ve seen at describing the horrors of abortion. It is graphic, but very moving.
- Desiring God – John Piper has preached several sermons about the sanctity of life and the horrors of abortion.
- An Exhaustive Report on Planned Parenthood – The report lists “Planned Parenthood claims to be a ‘trusted health care provider,’ but the AUL Report clearly shows that there is little to trust about Planned Parenthood.”